Taking Public Speaking Classes
Ever since I can remember, my self-image has been so negative that it has eaten me alive. For example, because I feel so poorly about myself, it can be difficult to maintain eye contact during conversations, and I’ve been told, time and time again, that I nervously fiddle with my hands.
Recently, though, I’ve decided that I’ve had enough of being timid. Thankfully, I’m not alone in this; I’ve met so many women just like me at the public speaking classes I’ve been attending. I haven’t been enrolled for very long, but over just a few weeks; I’ve noticed a number of dramatic improvements in my one-on-one conversations. Still, I have a long way to go before I’ll be comfortable holding my own in a group!
Trying Not to Compare Myself to Others
There are so many incredible people out there, and it’s incredibly easy for me to compare my shortcomings, rather than my strengths, to their successes.
This happens naturally to me, it seems; no matter the setting, I find myself envious of other women. I’m aware that this is an unhealthy habit, but it has been a tough challenge to overcome; still, I’ve decided to put work into letting go and focusing on my own needs.
Life is too short to fret about how I compare; why not appreciate the things that make me exceptional?
Positive Self-Talk Strategies
Everyone talks to themselves now and again. Where some are exceedingly kind to themselves, though, others, like me, beat themselves up. The real bane of my self-confidence, in fact, is the little devil on my shoulder telling me I’m not good enough.
In spite of this, however, I’ve taken to developing a more positive mindset and correcting myself when my mind veers into negative territory. It’s not worth it to be my own worst enemy, especially when it comes to trying out new things—usually, I won’t put forth any effort because I’m afraid of failure. This mindset has even bled into my social interactions, and so much so that it seems impossible to maintain strong relationships with friends.
From now on, I’m going to treat myself like a queen.
Working on My Appearance
Of course, self-image isn’t just about mentality; it’s also about physicality, meaning it’s more difficult to love yourself if you dislike certain aspects of your appearance. This is why I scheduled surgery to augment my lips, which weren’t nearly as plump as most of my girlfriends’.
The lip augmentation has proven to be one of the best decisions I’ve ever made, and it’ll pair well with my fresh enthusiasm. Everyone will love the new me!
Buying Some New Clothes
I’ve also been visiting stores I’ve never been to in hope of completely revamping my wardrobe, which has been outdated for years. It has been such a pleasure to shop with my friends; I’ve even become obsessed with thrift stores!
Since I’m planning to begin dating again, I’ll need to find a pair of nice heels, too, which will match my inner confidence.
Interacting More with Others
My hard work would be for naught if I didn’t get out of the house and interact with other people.
Everyone has been extremely supportive of my changes thus far, and my social anxiety has accordingly diminished. After all, if my friends and family enjoy my presence, why wouldn’t I like being with them in turn? Gone are the days of dealing with emotional butterflies!
At one of my self-improvement classes, in fact, I’ve learned that a great way to be a better conversation partner is to take a keen interest in what the person you’re talking to is passionate about. This really works and has prevented me from getting stressed and tongue-tied. If you also have social anxiety, you should try this out and see how it works for you!